Begin With Your End In Mind
Stephen Covey stated in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, to “begin with the end in mind.” This lone statement can be (and has been) applied to many situations where one intends to accomplish an end goal. This habit works very well; in fact, successful people do this in everything they do; unsuccessful people do not. In my time over the years as a career coach/mentor, I have used this to help my students/clients to reach their goals. Of course, there is more to it than just having a vivid imagination. To create this, “end” takes planning and execution. Whether on your own or a team, there is a logical course of action to take. I am amazed to find the times when people accomplish their goals, and they are not as happy as they thought they would be. So perhaps Covey should have written this particular habit is “Begin with your end in mind” (NO not that end). Taking the brave step of creating a vision of what you intend your life to be is good; doing so in authentic alignment with your truest self is incredible!
Now, there are times for beginning with “your” end in mind, and there are times when we just need to do! For instance – if you are planning significant career change, but cannot cover your bills, you probably need to put your career change on hold and get a job (and THEN plan your career change). Basically, we need to slow down. I know this sounds counter-intuitive with how we are taught to behave these days, but honestly, why are we in such a hurry all the time. An analogy I use with my clients is -you can’t each an elephant in one bite (I know you are saying “why on earth would I ever eat an elephant”?! – Its just an analogy…) The point is that all to often we rush through decisions (and life in general) because we think that is the way we are “supposed to do it”. BUT this is not the case. Yes, there are time-sensitive events that need to be addressed, BUT NOT EVERYTHING!
So my advice to you, my dear friend, is SLOW DOWN. Get in touch with yourself. Ponder what it is YOU truly want to create. Also, and here is a biggy…do so from a place of authenticity to YOU. We need to get out of this place of making major decisions in our lives because “we are supposed to, or that is the way we are always doing it.” NOW a big caveat here – I am not advocating selling all your worldly possessions, leaving your family, and moving to the middle of the desert as a permanent resident at Burning Man (if this is what you are planning – you’re on your own). Make it ecologically congruent.